When you become a mother that alone time you used to have - whether a little or a lot - is reduced to pretty much nothing. And, for stay-at-home-mums (SAHMs), that place where you went to be you - usually work - is gone, too. So, to find something that is yours', and yours' alone is special.
Some time ago, I 'met' online a lovely group of people who regularly comment on my favourite blog, MamaMia. Over the last little while we have shared triumphs and tears. We've trusted each other with fears and frustrations. They're not strangers - just friends I haven't met yet. And next Saturday, I'll finally say hi to them in 'real life' when we get together for drinks in Sydney.
I talk to Drew about them like I talk about my local friends. He probably wouldn't know their names, but he'd recognise the funny columnist with the gay-straight husband; or the accountant who fell down the stairs in her new studded Nicola Finetti boots; or the brave ex-criminal lawyer who is fighting to save her best friend from cancer.
And when I say "I'll be saying hi...", that's what I mean. It's my first solo trip away in over three years and I'm looking forward to sleeping in on Sunday morning as much as I am hitting the town the night before.
While some partners might wonder why they're not invited to come along, that's not the case with Drew. He's encouraged me to go, told me to get myself a new outfit; he's not threatened in the least. He understands that, these days, I have so little that is truly mine and mine alone... and how I adore him for it.
What do you do, 0r where do you go, to find something that is truly yours'?
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